The flowers are blooming, the spring wardrobe comes out of the closet, can’t wait to remove the winter wardrobe, and yes -- the teens are driving!
What does that exactly mean? I remember very well. Come home from school, friends calling, let’s meet here, there,.wherever! But, I have a test tomorrow I thought. You could feel the devil on one shoulder and the other shoulder your conscience!
Now fast forward; “Let’s hook up after school and meet at Starbucks!” Communication with friends is so much more accessible. Back in the day, we came home and arrangements weren’t so spontaneous. You couldn’t text, “leaving school now ...”
Are your memories as vivid as mine? Did you play, “ Hookie?” Obviously, not the “Hook”ie of today.
Recollecting your memories; how will you set limits for your child/teen? Homework, tests, and other obligations can be a challenge. If your teen has caught “I got into college bug;” it is the last semester, and unless you have AP exams, freedom comes to mind! And the “bug” spreads to all of their friends.
Experience says, that everything in moderation. Stifling them, limiting them, can possibly cause dissention. As I always advocate; common sense.
To keep harmony and sanity in the house:
- Set limits early on.
- Consequences if limits aren’t followed.
- Not creating limits will cause further difficulties as they get older.
- Respect; goes both ways!
- Clear Communication can refer to: time restrictions, expectations, do’s and don’ts.
- TLC. I am huge advocate of showing TLC to our children. Growing up an a loving, caring household can only fare well with all of the above suggestions.
We all aren’t perfect and can’t have expectations that our children are either. Remembering that you weren’t a perfect child/teen either may assist you in the way you communicate.
Spring has sprung ... great time to have family time!
Vicki Kalmus is a certified teacher and writer on ways students and parents organize their time and improve study techniques. Even the brightest of students can lose their way. She lives in Livingston and writes her columns with all ages of students in mind.